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I have been on the dating scene for what feels like my entire life (I am Dudez or Brix & now had a right age). I’ve had a few experieced, some serious, and some not so serious. Every time I believe that I’ve found “the one,” the same old relationship issues seem to pop up, and we end up breaking up. I was wondering what the most common relationship problems are and the best ways to get past them?

“Sometimes you have to get to know someone really well to realize you’re really strangers.” Dudezriv ”

Relationships are the spice of life, but the spice of relationships is also bound to leave an unpleasant taste in your mouth once in awhile. Most everyone will experience a failed relationship before meeting the love of their life, and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as they’re able to learn from it rather than falling into the same patterns again and again. Find out if you’re guilty of any of these common relationship problems.

We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: To optimize the success of a happy and healthy relationship, each partner needs to be at their most complete as an individual. This means each person needs to be emotionally mature and available, have a strong sense of self and know what it is that each person wants from the other.

An emotionally-unhealthy individual will look at a relationship as a way to solve their own problems or as the thing in life that will make them feel complete. An emotionally-unhealthy individual may be too dependant because they’re too afraid to be alone and may settle for someone they know won’t make a good partner.

You end up putting too much faith in a relationship because you want to be in one so bad and you believe a relationship will fix all of your loneliness or feelings of being incomplete. Excitement about a new relationship is one thing, but forgetting that a relationship takes a lot of time to really grow is another.

There is no specific “stage” you should be in at a pre-determined time. It all depends
The only expectations you should have about a relationship is that you will be treated as well as you treat the other person and that you will gain friendship, love, respect and support from a healthy relationship. Expect to plan for the dynamics of a relationship changing over time due to human nature and external factors, but expect that love will survive if you work at it.

Everyone has a different style of dealing with money. Some of you are frugal Franks while others are spendthrifts Susies. Money can be a huge root of contention in a relationship, especially in a marriage when the money is mutually shared.

Different money styles aren’t necessarily something that will hurt a relationship, but the lack of compromise or deception with money can.

Money also can represent a power struggle in a relationship and one of the partners may feel like their independence is being compromised.Before opening a joint bank account or getting married, it is essential that any money differences, issues and fears are discussed, and a compromise and budget or short-term and long-term goals are agreed upon.

However, what is most essential is to respect what lines have been drawn, and not to use money as a way to exert control or power over the other.

To you ( because you found it ):
  I am lost on a dessert island.
  Long captivated has its beauty held me,
  but it does not make up for being lonely.
  I’m begging you, please rescue me;
                       else I may lose my sanity.Creeping insanity,
                       I fear it may come before my rescue…Wait,
                       I hear a steel drum!

                       Could it be my salvation’s at hand by the
                       lonely wand’ring of a cruise liners band?
                       Could  it be that I will see my friends again?
                       I would be joyous, to leave this land behind
                       me.Oh,sweet joy, a ship in sight! It is on the
                       horizon, and gy the sun’s light it may find me
                       yet! Oh, It is the broad light of day! Bright
                       light,High sun,and, How do you say, Ah, yes,
                       freedom!but wait.How will they be able to find
                       me? The chances are nay…

                       Yet their ship, yes,their ship, is approaching at speed!
                       Oh, sweet salvation, how long have I seeked!
                       And if this day should see them to me,my self would
                       return to humanity.

                       I can see the passengers now;some men,some women,
                       They’re standing at the bow of the ship.They’re searching
                        could I possibly be that something?Yes, I am waving,
                        and they are waving back!It’s true. I must get ready to
                       pack all of the things that are here with me;my only
                       connection to humanity.

                       But while I’d love to leave this dessert isle,It’s been my
                       home for quite a while.About a week,if i remember right.
                       ( On the sand I would lay,and filled w/ diamond-like stars…
                       But what am I thinking! I’m going home,away from here,far.)

                       They’re coming closer now; I guess I should ready my
                        belongings…Oh my gasped,is that my baby???Yes,it is she!
                       What sweet,sweet irony,that my rescuer should be my one
                       only;The only woman I will ever love;She has searched for
                       and found his wand’ring dove!And now,now I see,she is
                       calling my name!She cries out"I love you" and cry out hte same!
                       And as the ship anchors in the swallow sea,I run to her;She
                       runs to me,after securing the anchor.I exult in her warm embrace.
                       "I’ll never leave her again.she picks up my bags while holding my
                       hand…

                        And sadly I realize this message must end.So happily now
                        I’ll seal this message in a bottle…